What ever happened to being a nice human being?

This is my vicious dog:

My dog unfortunately bit the mail lady a couple of weeks ago. We were not home to witness the event thank the Lord, but ambulance arrived, dog officer on scene, and state police were called.

I can't tell you how bad I felt about the whole situation. I called her, I talked to her, I sent her flowers, and I told her that I would pay for anything that insurance, etc. does not pay. She had to have her rings cut off her finger and I told her to send me the bill so we can take care of it.

A week after the incident and talking to her multiple times, the letter came. You know the one from the attorney stating that the "victim" is now going after us for compensation.

Well today, the insurance company came and "assessed" the dog situation. I am happy to say that Digger made a very good impression, but unfortunately I was told that the "victim" usually will get the money and that they tend to "milk" the situation. The good news, they are aware of this scenario and take that into consideration.

I really feel so bad that my dog hurt someone, and was willing to do whatever I needed to do. Why does everyone have to resort in suing? - and yes, I do know the answer to that question - (because they can) Love society. To me (not to minimize the situation)- a mail person not getting bit by a dog is like saying a chef will never get burned. It comes with the territory.

I still hope she does well and that no lasting effects of the dog bite come of it, but it just makes me really question the human race. She seemed like such a "nice" lady, not one that would possibly put another family in financial ruin. But like they say, you can't judge a book by its cover.

So people, really, when you see a BEWARE OF DOG sign in the yard - don't go in the yard - or then again go - you can sue, and get lots of money.

Over and out and I am so trying to do it in peace!!! Just keep swimming, just keep swimming, just keep swimming

I Don't Feel Like Being Nice To You

Negativity:

From The Free Dictionary

1.   a. Expressing, containing, or consisting of a negation, refusal, or denial:

      b. Indicating opposition or resistance:

2.   Lacking positive or constructive features, especially:

          a. Unpleasant; disagreeable:

          b. Gloomy; pessimistic:

          c. Unfavorable or detrimental:

         d. Hostile or disparaging; malicious:

 “The people who are the hardest to love are the ones who need it the most.” ~Peaceful Warrior

     First off, who in their right mind would want to go through life this way. I feel sorry for them. I really do. It must be a sad place to be if everything you do, you feel, you see, you hear, you eat, you whatever - for lack of a better word - sucks.

     But for that particular person I am sure it is easier said then done (being nice that is). On the other hand, which I don't think these negative people understand, is that us not so negative people have to deal with you. Really. What do you see in the mirror when and if you even look at yourself? Do you even consider or care the way you treat people? If you ask them I am sure they will say they do. I have also had excuses such as, "I am not that bad," or, "I am not negative." REALLY!!!! Do you not hear what comes out of your mouth. I will even ask them to tell me something positive, or ask when was the last time you said anything positive. Now if they can't come up with either of these answers - they, again for a lack of a better word, suck.

    Now don't get me wrong. I have enough experience to know that most of these people do not mean to be negative. And to further clarify myself, I am not talking depression. I am not talking about the people who look at a glass half full as half empty. I have been through depression. I remember at one point in my life when something made me smile and it felt so foreign on my face that I realized at that moment, I had not smiled for a very, very long time. Now that sucks. And I will pray for anyone who is in that situation. So please, I am not talking about that kind of negativity.

    What I am talking about, are those people who just like to be negative. Again, don't get me wrong. I know no one wants to go through life negative. But when you get cut off you start yelling obscenities and flip them off, or when you got to the drive thru window and the person accidentally dropped a dime on the ground and you then proceed to throw the rest of the coins at them as well as the receipt on the ground, and the person when their dog accidentally gets in their way they proceed to kick it across the room followed by every obscene word that they can find at the moment. That is what I am talking about. I do have to say, and you may or may not agree, that this is a choice. You can choose to be sad and depressed without making everyone else around you sad and depressed, and for that matter so sorry they ever came across your path.

   Negativity really can rob a room of joy in an instant. I know everyone has a bad day once in a while, but some just seem to thrive on complaining and being generally grumpy. I again know that sometimes they do not even realize how negative they really are, or the consequences of that negativity. But, you don’t have to allow a negative person to pull you down into their sad, grumpy world. 

    For the most part though, you can avoid these people, you can write them off. But what do you do when that is not the case. What do you do if this person is a colleague, a family member, or even a spouse. I mean do you quit your job, do you not attend family functions, do you get divorced? That would be the easy way out, and definitely not the godly thing to do. Again, those that are the hardest to love are usually the ones that most need it. Jesus didn't just associate with the "happy people". No, He too had to deal with those grumpy people.

     To deal with these "grumpy" people, the best thing to do is just ignore them. Really, don't get into it with them. You can set off a time bomb that will explode at any moment, and there may be no return. But, what if you really need to say something to them. I know I get a little tense and would really just like to smack them in the face. But again, that wouldn't accomplish much, other than proving to them that you are now as miserable as they are - which I think is their goal.

    But, this is the fun part and the part which I plan to put to good use. A very simple no nonsense approach. This is really good:  Are you ready:  

"You are right".

   Say this person expresses to you that your face looks totally retarded. You can simply way, without sarcasm, "You are totally right. My face looks retarded... well, there's not much I can do about it". Maybe you are trying to start a business, and this person tells you that you are just wasting your time. Answer back without yelling "Yes, you are right. I'm just wasting time... well, what can I do".

 

     Now, this doesn't means that you should throw your self-esteem in the toilet and actually acknowledge that what they are saying is true. Truly, you will only just be telling the other person what they want to hear, without believing it yourself. Is this being hypocrite? Yes; but ponder it for a moment... do you believe that negative people that care crap about you truly deserve your truth? Do they deserve to know what you truly believe and feel? Do they even care? Think about what the answer is...

 

    Nobody has power over your mind. A person can only make your emotional life miserable only if you give importance to the words they use, and let them affect you. It really doesn't matter what they think or say about you. I really believe that they do not care too much about you and are probably only making themselves feel better. Just make them happy by acknowledging what they say is true, and then keep going on with your life. That way you save yourself from tons of totally useless discussions and insults galore with just 3 simple words - "You are right."

    Peace Out and Be HAPPY!!!!! No one likes to be around someone so negative. If you really have to be negative, go hide, far away, in the woods somewhere, or outer space for that matter, just GO!!!!!

Busy Busy

Well, it is the Saturday before Christmas and I am glad to say that I am almost done. I have a few gift certificates to pick up and a bird feeder to make, so I am happy to say that for the second year in a row, if all goes well, I will not be shopping Christmas Eve. Hurray!!!!. In keeping with the holiday season, I thought I would share my Christmas list with you. I got the idea from Kara Anderson over at Simple Homeschool who shared her awesome list with us, and I will take 1 of everything she had on her list  and this one simple and cheap gift

Yup, that's it. Love. I just want to be loved. I want the world to be filled with love. I just want everyone to love on each other ALL THE TIME. This world is filled with such hate and unkindness, we need to teach others to love one another. To treat people with respect. To treat others the way you in return would want to be treated. That is what I want for Christmas.

And, a blender.

UPDATE:  Well I had written this in hopes of finishing it the same day, but here it is now December 30, 2013, and I didn't get around to finishing it. Sorry for that - but here it is.

Christmas was good. Went by without a hitch. Of course the kiddos were not exactly happy with what they got. Really need to teach them how to be grateful for what they did get and not dwell on the things they didn't get. I should say however that Kylie and Jake were pretty much happy, my oldest not that much. The husband I didn't think liked his new clothes. :) Clothes are good right?

I wanted to show you the gift I made my mom - well Dave and I made it - came out pretty good

Its a bird feeder if you couldn't guess. I did all the cutting out of the face and he put it all together.

I had a fairly good week off. The first week I have taken off in over 2 years. I of course didn't really get to do what I wanted to do, which was nothing, but I did enjoy it nonetheless.

I all hope you had a wonderful Christmas and I hope the new year is better than last year. I don't know what this year has in store for me. I am not going to get my hopes up as I am always disappointed. If I am alive on December 31, 2014, I will consider it a good year, or should I say if I haven't killed anyone :)

P.S. I did get the blender.

LOVE EVERYONE!!!! ALL THE TIME!!!! EVERY DAY!!!!!!

To Help or Not to Help

Good evening, 

I had recently posted a questions on Facebook, How would you respond if someone told you that you waste too much of your time helping others and you shouldn't do it, that you should be more selfish and think only of yourself?  

What would you do? How would you respond? 

I didn't really respond to that question because I really didn't know what to say. I truthfully thought it was a crummy statement to make, but I kept that thought to myself. 

The way I think of it is - if everyone did things for other people, how better would the world we live in be? I think that is a main reason why this world is like it is today, because we are all way too selfish. Even me!!!! You can even look at it this way (somewhat selfish)  - if everyone helps out other people, then hopefully in that mix you would be a recipient of that "help" in some way. So you get back as much as you give. As they say, what comes around, goes around, right? Wouldn't that be an incentive enough to help. 

However, that is not why I help out other people. For one, I like to help out, I feel like I have a purpose. It is said that we are all given a "talent" from God. I believe this and I know many people who know what that special gift is. Some have a wonderful voice and can sing like angels, some teach in Sunday school or are in children ministry, some have a gift of preaching. I, however, have not really found my gift yet, or at least I haven't identified "helping" as my gift, but then again, if I had to say what God gave me, I would have to say it is gift of service, the gift of helping others, the gift of giving. It is something I am good at, AND, I do not expect anything in return. I think that point is very important as nothing good will come of it if I did expect something. I used too expect things in return, and I think a lot of people live that way, but I know from experience that you are only setting yourself up for failure. That is one lesson I learned very early on.

I got a mix of responses to that question from my friends on Facebook,  but I believe the overall consensus is that helping out is good. What stood out was responses that stated to find the "happy medium", to not let it interfere with your family, home, or health, and to make sure that you are not taken advantage of by the selfish. I believe all these to be true. One must be careful as not to fall pray from one feigning neediness or one that is just out to take advantage of you. Unfortunately for me, and I am sure others, that this doesn't come to fruition until after the act of giving has already been done. I am one who learns the hard way. I am not a good judge of character. 

“No one is useless in this world who lightens the burdens of another.” 
― Charles Dickens

"Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind; let each esteem others better than himself." Philippians 2:3

This is the best one - “You have not lived today until you have done something for someone who can never repay you.” 
― John Bunyan

Way to Go John Bunyan!!!!

It is also said that helping others actually may help you live longer and healthier. It is good for your mental state to give to others. So the saying has some merit to it - "it is better to receive than to give," and for more than one reason. 

So, I will continue to give unselfishly of my services to those who need it, but I will also make sure that it doesn't interfere with what is important to me, my family, home, and health. And when it comes to them, I am giving to them as well just as much in hopes of nothing in return (well, most of the time). It is nice to be the recipient of such "help, care, giving," but I don't expect it when I give of myself, and I wouldn't have it any other way. One day, it may be my time to get what has come around full circle, but until then, I will carry on as I have been. 

Philippians 2:4 - do not merely look out for your own personal interests, but also for the interests of others.

Luke 6:38 - "Give, and it will be given to you; good measure, pressed down, shaken together, running over, they will pour into your lap. For by your standard of measure it will be measured to you in return."

John 15:12 - "This is My commandment, that you love one another, just as I have loved you.

Hebrews 13:16 - And do not neglect doing good and sharing; for with such sacrifices God is pleased.

Galatians 6:2 - Bear one another's burdens, and thus fulfill the law of Christ.

There is certainly enough evidence that says helping out is what God wants us to do, that is is important, and it is what can and will make this world a better place. I feel through my small tokens of help, that I am making this world a better place. 

Good Bless. 

I am not FUNNY

No I am not. I try to be. But I am not. I actually think I am more of a morbid person. I take everything way, way too seriously. I HATE THAT!!!

I have a few blogs that I follow. I am deciding whether to share, but I am afraid you may not return as they are just too funny. Actually, one is extremely off the wall funny, the other I like to read because he is sort of down to earth, with a little bit of humor in it. Truthfully I am writing this as if someone is actually reading it. Maybe when I am dead someone might come across this and say - oh, I never knew. I don't, however, advertise my blog to people I know because for the sad reason that I am not funny. So, if you reading this, I am sorry for your loss. (was that funny?)

Maybe I am so seriously unfunny because I do hospice reports all day. It is not too fun to have to listen to reports of dying people and how their years of smoking or drinking have totally messed them up, or how a young 30 some year old is dying of cancer and how distraught his family is.

I truly do not try to get all caught up in the mess of these people lives, as for one I don't really know them. I guess it is all in how you look at it.

So my new goal for this year is to loosen up, have fun, and f... it. I really don't think we were meant to take this life too seriously. Do good, laugh, smile, have fun, and love on one another (not in a gross, slobbery way).

Anyway, I will try to be someone funny and entertaining, but don't get your hopes up. I think I may just stick to movie and book reviews as they are more straightforward.

Oh, I guess I will share that totally hilarious blog with you:  But don't go crazy now. Maybe I should get something for advertising for this lady. I think she will need to send me one of her taxidermy mouses or something. (you will understand when you read through her blog)

http://thebloggess.com/

Over and out and please, someone Like me!!!! I really am not that desperate, but maybe I can win someone over by pity :)